DonnaPreedy http://donnapreedy.com Turning Goals into Outcomes. Wed, 30 Nov 2016 05:08:58 +0000 en-US hourly 1 5 Tips to Help You Juggle Work and Baby http://donnapreedy.com/5-tips-to-help-you-juggle-work-and-baby/ Thu, 03 Nov 2016 10:11:43 +0000 http://donnapreedy.com/?p=598 Are you a working mum juggling what feels like a million things at once? If yes, then there is a good chance that at times you’ve been flooded with a myriad of emotions.  Let’s face it, you probably don’t have time to deal with them right now.

As a mum of a 9 month old baby,  running a consultancy business and studying at Uni I know this all too well.

Today I  was sitting in class trying to pay attention, texting clients to sync schedules and organising child care for upcoming workdays that had arisen last minute…. It occurred to me that I need a regular appointment with someone like me ( stress and resilience consultant)  to help me get my head around this insane schedule that I’m reluctant to give up.  However ironically that would mean more time,  that was a luxury I couldn’t afford right now.

If you can relate to this,  please gift yourself 2 minutes and keep reading.

Instead of stressing, I came up with my 5 most valuable tips to get on top of your schedule and stay ahead of the game.

# Tip 1.   Know that this is a choice

At any time you can choose to let go of at least some of your commitments.  Yes there may be repercussions (like A temporary drop in income)  but know that this is a choice.

In my case yes I could choose to defer uni. I could choose to postpone the creation of a series of online courses. I could choose to reduce my work hours and I could also choose to put my baby in daycare or choose to be a full time mum

You get the idea. I’ve been active in setting my life up for this hectic schedule and I have the power to turn that up or down.  So do you

 

 # Tip 2.  Show appreciation and gratitude for those supporting you

At times I felt like I’m pushing the friendship with my mother-in-law and friends as they help out with childcare.  All so I can go to work, finish assignments and occasionally indulge in a social life.  If you fall into this category and have ever been left second guessing if others have felt you are  taking advantage, this is what I recommend.  Regularly Express appreciation and gratitude to those supporting you as well as checking in to make sure that this arrangement still suits the schedule.  Keeping the lines of communication open is key here.  Let them know how much you appreciate them as well as reminding them that they do have the option out. Hopefully this will increase the longevity of your arrangement or at least your friendship.

 

Tip 3. Get clear on what’s important to you and just focus on that.

You wont win a prize for doing it all. All you’ll do is burn yourself out. Get clear on your values and whats important to YOU (note, not whats important to others).

Once I clearly recognised that my baby, work and uni was whats important right now, decisions became so much easier to make.  Anything outside those 3 things would get dropped pretty quickly. I found this made it so much easier to know what to say yes to, and when to say no.

 

 #Tip 4.  Use your emotions as feedback systems to let you know what needs addressing

(Because ultimately that’s all emotions are – feedback systems)

Feeling frustrated? Time to look at your expectations. Are they realistic? do they need adjusting? do you need to work on communicating in others value systems to get others on board and working with you, not against you?

Feeling guilty? nothing Sparks mother’s guilt quicker than feeling like she’s dropped the ball by outsourcing child care. Clearing this guilt can be done by asking one question; How is sending your baby to alternative child care benefit to them?  Keep asking until you no longer feel guilty.  Your answers will probably include building resisted resilience learning opportunities and stimulation

Feeling overwhelmed? Then it’s time to put pen to paper and list everything that needs doing.  Then place each item into into 3 columns.  Do, Delegate, delete.  You may be surprised at the items you can let go of that occupying serious head-space.

 

# Tip 5  When at work; be at work. When with family; be with family

Basically learn to get present with the task at hand.  If you’ve done the above 4 steps there’s no need to worry. You’ve done the best you can to plan and you’re living in your value system.  It’s now time to reap the rewards. Which is the clear head space to be present with the people work or baby in front of you

 

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Three Questions You Need To Ask Yourself When You’re Stressed! http://donnapreedy.com/three-questions-you-need-to-ask-yourself-when-youre-stressed/ Fri, 12 Jun 2015 09:24:17 +0000 http://donnapreedy.com/?p=559 3questionsWhat if living stress free was as simple as asking yourself the right questions each day. Sounds too simple? Well it is! Stress is simply the perception that something in our life is offering up way more challenge than we would like.

Asking yourself questions to see how life is actually supporting, may be that start of getting on top of things.

Question 1: “What do I really want to happen?”

Often when we’re stressed out we find ourself in trouble shooting survival mode. If you find yourself here, sometimes its easy to get distracted from what you really want. Fighting the fight takes over from achieving the desired outcome. If you find yourself here, pause to ask yourself. “What do I really want? And why do I want it?”

Knowing what your want and why will make it easier to make clear decisions when you’re under the pump

Question 2: “Where is my support?”

In the midst of a crisis it’s easy to see challenges coming toward you thick and fast. However while you’re focusing on that, you could be missing the hidden signs of support. At the moment you’re feeling challenged, simply asking the question “Where’s my support” until you find the answer can help in dissolving the stress.

Question 3: “How is this “stress” actually serving me?”

This one can be a bit confronting, yet the most rewarding once the answers start to flow. Keep in mind that we all do the most growth during times of adversity.  What path did you take as a result of the challenges? Who did you connect with? What relationships were formed or severed that has been beneficial to you?

Stress can be the instigator for change. Stress can help us grow. Stress can help us get clear on our boundaries (by pushing them).  The secret is not to try and eliminate challenge (which is impossible anyway) But to take distress and turn it into good stress (Eustress).

If you liked this article, you might like to see Donna Preedy speak at the next live event in Perth.

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Do You Really Need a Reason? http://donnapreedy.com/do-you-really-need-a-reason/ Sat, 18 Jan 2014 01:45:59 +0000 http://donnapreedy.com/?p=336 reason

The beautiful thing about reason, you can use it to your advantage to justify just about anything.

Last week my husband Phil decided to fly across the other side of the country to buy a muscle car. His reasoning… it’s an investment! Not that I’m complaining, I get it, we all do irrational things and then build up a case as to why it was a great idea. I’m certainly not condemning this, in fact I’m sure Phil actually thinks I invented the concept! I think its a beautiful thing and I smile to myself whenever I see it. Ain’t the human mind great!

One thing that did puzzle me was his facebook post. Him smiling like a cheshire cat in front of his new ride, and at the end of his post “and thanks to my wife Donna for letting me do it”. My initial thought was “let you??”. Hmm. Nobody “lets” him do things, he generally sees what he wants and goes after it. Now the same is true for me. We just have an understanding that we step out of the way if the other one is pursuing a dream.

Now I don’t want you to get the wrong idea, our relationship is not all roses. You show me a couple that claims there relationship is and I’ll show you 2 people that are completely deluded still in the honeymoon phase or comfortable lying to your face (If this happens before a poker game, don’t bet big!) You place two strong minded people under one roof and you are bound to get some friction every day from time to time. However isn’t that how diamonds are made? Constant friction and pressure, at this rate by the end of our lives we are in line for a massive rock. Pay dirt!

Another irrational thing I see (in my perception anyway) is people just before they get divorced or separated. Have you noticed that they often live a boring life, may have let themselves go etc etc. Then hey presto! The second that separation is in motion they start working out, going out, trying new things…. I scratch my head and think, well now you’re kinda interesting, why didnt you just do that in the first place? Perhaps you and your ex may have loved the exciting and more genuine you?

If I appear to be burning the candle both ends, its just me staying interesting for the sake of my relationship. That’s my excuse and I’m sticking to it!

If you are one of those people blaming your partner for your shitty life, it might be time to take a look at yourself and what you want. As my sister said to my niece before sending her into the playground “If you want friends you have to be friendly.” Simple, yet solid advice.

If you want an interesting and fulfilling life (not the one you’re bored with) you have to be interesting and find what fulfils you! So before you take that plunge and call it quits, (because lets face it, separation is expensive and a big hassle). Take the time to ask what you want out of life, not just the relationship, then go for it!

If you are close to that point anyway, you don’t have much to loose.

The moral of this story? Live a life that’s on purpose, that brings YOU fulfilment. If you don’t know what that is, you owe it to yourself and those around you to ask the question. Hint; the answer is inside, not outside you.

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My Discovery of Pain Management http://donnapreedy.com/my-discovery-of-pain-management/ Wed, 08 Jan 2014 03:45:03 +0000 http://donnapreedy.com/?p=123 My Storypain management

A few years ago I was in a car accident, though it wasn’t so bad in comparison to what some people experience. A car pulled out in front of me and as I hit the brakes the whole impact of the accident was felt in my hip joints and through my right hand side. I was shaken up and felt sore for days after.

I visited my Doctor, Chiropractor and Physiotherapist in an effort to cover all bases and aid a quick recovery. My intention was to quickly get back to  the life I had been enjoying, however this didn’t happen. My moment of sadness came when my physio told me after a year of therapy that ‘this is just how it was going to be for me from now on, and pain management was the best I could do. I would never be without discomfort of some sort.

This did not sit well with me. I was angry and upset that I had to sacrifice doing activities I loved like jogging and weights because of another car pulling out in front of me. I felt that this was so unfair. I didn’t like my life where sleep was often interrupted due to the pain in my hips, and often just lying on the couch hurt.

It didn’t take long due to my reduced physical activity I started to put on weight, and that made me feel even worse. Here I was hurting, and feeling depressed because I’d started to put on weight and I was being told that there was not a solution in sight.

This just absolutely did not cut it for me. The image I wanted for my future life, was one where I was active, slept well and generally lived a full life.

My intuition knew that there had to be something out there that would help, all I had to do was find it.

Being a Demartini facilitator I knew that John Demartini’s 45 page manuscript was the body of work  for Louise Hays’ book ‘You Can Heal Your Life’. It was now time to investigate the mind / body connection. This was a journey that took me to the US and found me learning how to refine what I was already practicing to specifically target physical pain. I was fortunate enough to hone my skills while working with a successful facilitator running a practice in Hawaii. His results we astounding and after 2 sessions I can say that my level of pain from the accident has dissolved to almost nothing. Maintaining my regular schedule to my chiropractor I believe has helped keep the pain away.

Upon returning home I found that I was attracting clients that also had severe pain that I was able to work with and found that the results I had both witnessed and experienced in the US were the typical results.

This is why I am inspired to do this work, because I know the frustration and impact that pain can have on your life and I believe strongly in the mind / body connection and that our physical symptoms can be reduced or alleviated by changing our perceptions.

 

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Reflecting on an experience of ADHD http://donnapreedy.com/adhd/ Fri, 08 Nov 2013 15:39:10 +0000 http://donnapreedy.com/?p=101 adhdI have recently expanded my business to include running my corporate workshops and facilitating for education. So recently I had been curious to find out more about peoples reflection of their learning experiences now that they are adults.

I have a business client who I knew had been diagnosed as attention deficit disorder as a child. After a recent session I said to her ‘do you mind if I ask you an abstract question?’, ‘not at all she replied’

‘Well, you mentioned some time back that you were diagnosed with ADHD as a child?’

‘Yes.’ she said.

‘Well my question to you is, if you had attention deficit disorder with learning, where did you have attention surplus disorder?’

‘Great question!’ she replied, ‘No-one has ever asked me that before.  Now let me see, I’m really not sure. I used to daydream a lot as a kid, does that count?’

‘Sure, what did you daydream about?’

‘Well all sorts of things, now I think of it, my imagination was expanding as a child, very much alive. I could sit for hours and hours and play barbies, or play with my imaginary friends. I had whole families of imaginary friends. I would go and ask the parents if they was allowed to play. Sometimes i’d go to there place for dinner. Don’t get me wrong, I had plenty of real friends. Its just that my imaginations was extremely active.’

‘So what was your least favourite subject?

‘Maths, I found it very confusing.’ she said.

‘So just speculating here, if someone had incorporated your imagination into maths, how do you think your learning experience would have differed?’

‘Well, it would have made a massive difference. At times I would physically be sick at my desk when it was time for maths, it could get quite distressing for me.”

“Hang on, I had totally forgotten, but there was one student teacher we had for a day back in primary school. He used imagination, and I remember he really spent the time with me to make maths creative, and used imagination and stories to learn. I remember that day clearly now. I remember he caught up with me at recess as I played in the playground. He got me to do another few examples as I played.  I was happy to do it, I finally got it. Oh my God, I will never forget that student teacher. He was the best teacher I’d ever had. I can’t believe I had almost forgotten. What a shame he was only there for a day. Thank you for reminding me.” she replied.

“School was only set up to teach a certain way, and I found it very difficult. It wasn’t that I was dumb, I just found it so hard to learn the way they taught.’

“Thank you” I replied, ‘Thank you for sharing this with me’

 

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