5 Tips to Help You Juggle Work and Baby
Are you a working mum juggling what feels like a million things at once? If yes, then there is a good chance that at times you’ve been flooded with a myriad of emotions. Let’s face it, you probably don’t have time to deal with them right now.
As a mum of a 9 month old baby, running a consultancy business and studying at Uni I know this all too well.
Today I was sitting in class trying to pay attention, texting clients to sync schedules and organising child care for upcoming workdays that had arisen last minute…. It occurred to me that I need a regular appointment with someone like me ( stress and resilience consultant) to help me get my head around this insane schedule that I’m reluctant to give up. However ironically that would mean more time, that was a luxury I couldn’t afford right now.
If you can relate to this, please gift yourself 2 minutes and keep reading.
Instead of stressing, I came up with my 5 most valuable tips to get on top of your schedule and stay ahead of the game.
# Tip 1. Know that this is a choice
At any time you can choose to let go of at least some of your commitments. Yes there may be repercussions (like A temporary drop in income) but know that this is a choice.
In my case yes I could choose to defer uni. I could choose to postpone the creation of a series of online courses. I could choose to reduce my work hours and I could also choose to put my baby in daycare or choose to be a full time mum
You get the idea. I’ve been active in setting my life up for this hectic schedule and I have the power to turn that up or down. So do you
# Tip 2. Show appreciation and gratitude for those supporting you
At times I felt like I’m pushing the friendship with my mother-in-law and friends as they help out with childcare. All so I can go to work, finish assignments and occasionally indulge in a social life. If you fall into this category and have ever been left second guessing if others have felt you are taking advantage, this is what I recommend. Regularly Express appreciation and gratitude to those supporting you as well as checking in to make sure that this arrangement still suits the schedule. Keeping the lines of communication open is key here. Let them know how much you appreciate them as well as reminding them that they do have the option out. Hopefully this will increase the longevity of your arrangement or at least your friendship.
Tip 3. Get clear on what’s important to you and just focus on that.
You wont win a prize for doing it all. All you’ll do is burn yourself out. Get clear on your values and whats important to YOU (note, not whats important to others).
Once I clearly recognised that my baby, work and uni was whats important right now, decisions became so much easier to make. Anything outside those 3 things would get dropped pretty quickly. I found this made it so much easier to know what to say yes to, and when to say no.
#Tip 4. Use your emotions as feedback systems to let you know what needs addressing
(Because ultimately that’s all emotions are – feedback systems)
Feeling frustrated? Time to look at your expectations. Are they realistic? do they need adjusting? do you need to work on communicating in others value systems to get others on board and working with you, not against you?
Feeling guilty? nothing Sparks mother’s guilt quicker than feeling like she’s dropped the ball by outsourcing child care. Clearing this guilt can be done by asking one question; How is sending your baby to alternative child care benefit to them? Keep asking until you no longer feel guilty. Your answers will probably include building resisted resilience learning opportunities and stimulation
Feeling overwhelmed? Then it’s time to put pen to paper and list everything that needs doing. Then place each item into into 3 columns. Do, Delegate, delete. You may be surprised at the items you can let go of that occupying serious head-space.
# Tip 5 When at work; be at work. When with family; be with family
Basically learn to get present with the task at hand. If you’ve done the above 4 steps there’s no need to worry. You’ve done the best you can to plan and you’re living in your value system. It’s now time to reap the rewards. Which is the clear head space to be present with the people work or baby in front of you
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